Think Straight! Feel Great!

Written by Bill Borcherdt, Think Straight!  Feel Great! – 21 Guides to Emotional Self-Control is a fantastic read.  However, I do not recommend it for the weak at heart or for anybody with thin skin.  As somebody who has been facing depression and anxiety for about 10 years and as somebody who needs to be told like it is, this book is just what the doctor ordered!  My first psychiatrist gave me this book and told me to read it 10 years ago.  I think I read the first chapter and tossed it aside … I just didn’t care to work at getting better … I wanted a quick fix.

When my postpartum depression relapsed about six months ago and after I read This Isn’t What I Expected – Overcoming Postpartum Depression, I decided to give the book a chance … afterall, I had held on to it for all of these years for some reason.  I am so glad that I read it and can only wish that I would have read it 10 years ago and I can only wonder if it would have made any difference in the way my life has turned out so far.

This book contains 21 guides for dealing with common problems in living.  Each articulates Rational-Emotive Therapy (RET) principles.  Originally written as adjunctive resources for use by psychotherapists in work with clients, they may also be used by individuals who are exploring options for personal growth.

RET teaches people how to get along better with themselves and others by disciplining their thinking, emotions, and behaviors.  In the context of RET, rational living means developing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that abet one’s happiness and survival.  RET encourages people to assume responsibility for their own lives in an action-oriented, spirited, and adventuresome manner – to go out on the limb where the fruit is; to plant their own garden rather than wait for someone to bring them flowers.

It encourages verifiable, scientific thinking, which allows for more personal happiness.  I use this way of thinking in many, many aspects of my life already, so I would like to think that I will greatly benefit from having read this book.

Here is a list of the Guides to Emotional Self-Control included in this book:

1.  To Feel or Not to Feel – That is NOT the Question:  Values and Mental Health
2.  Eight Ways to Influence Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Be Influenced
3.  You, Me, and Us:  Self-Interest Versus Selfishness
4.  Guilt-Free Parenting
5.  Failure Redefined:  Is It Really Bigger Than Life and the Worst of All Possible Crimes?
6.  Resisting Practically Anything, Including Temptation:  Overcoming Low Frustration Tolerance
7.  Self-Esteem As Disturbance
8.  To Be or Not to Be Angry
9.  Perfectionism and the Pursuit of Unhappiness
10.  Condemning the Sin But Not the Sinner:  Overcoming the Odds Against Guilt
11.  Ask Me No Questions and I’ll Tell You No Lies:  Roots of Deceitfulness
12.  Survival Skills for Protecting Yourself From a Difficult-Acting Person
13.  Emotional Dependency, Fear, and Anger:  Killing Three Birds with One Stone
14.  Do Not Forsake Me, Oh My Darling:  Emotional Management in the Aftermath of Betrayal
15.  Marital Dissatisfaction Versus Marital Disturbance:  Not Putting the Cart Before the Horse
16.  Twenty-Four Ways to Bring Out the Best in Parents
17.  Doing the Right Thing for the Right Reason:  Rational Assertiveness Training
18.  Avoidable, Nonaffordable Accompaniments of Depression
19.  Where There’s a Will There’s a Won’t:  Twenty-One Not-So-Good Reasons to Put Off Until Tomorrow What Has Already Been Put Off Until Today
20.  Marriage as Love and War:  To Love, Honor, and Negotiate
21.  Concerned But Not Consumed, Involved But Not Entangled:  Avoiding Other Pity

~ by cmb0414 on June 24, 2010.

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