HypnoBirthing – The Mongan Method (19-37)

My notes from the rest of the book written by Marie F. Mongan, M.Ed., M.Hy.

–  “Any guests who are planning to attend your birth should know that you have a plan in place and that your birthing is not the time for them to relate stories of the progress of their own labors or in any way attempt to influence the course of your labor by giving advice.  Because it can be awkward for you and your birth companion if conflict should arise, it is a good idea to have anyone who will be at your birthing attend HypnoBirthing classes with you.  If this is impossible, the matter should definitely be discussed prior to the time of labor.  It is important that everyone at the birth understand what you are doing and that they have a sense of your need for a calm and restful environment.”

–  “You might want to think twice about inviting people other than a professional labor companion into your labor.  When you think back to the ambiance of the lovemaking that resulted in your conceiving this baby, consider having that same ambiance at birth – the dimly lit room, privacy, music, no interruptions.  This is the atmosphere that should surround the birth of your child.”

–  “A veteran labor and birthing nurse once told me, half seriously, that the number of people in the birthing room beyond the couple and their labor companion seemed to extend the labor by an hour for each person.  You want only good birthing energy in your labor room.  You are the stars, directors and producers in this play.  You call the shots.”

–  “Many babies have been coached to turn with the help of HypnoBirthing techniques.  A special session has proven to be very effective in helping the breech-presented baby to spontaneously reposition into vertex position on its own.”

–  “If your baby is in breech presentation and there is talk of a possible surgical birth, seek the assistance of your HypnoBirthing practitioner, who will help you with a special hypnosis session that has been found to be especially successful in achieving the desired turn.  When the turning of the breech baby is achieved through relaxation and tension release, the baby usually remains in vertex position.”

–  “Your practitioner can also help you with finding community resources, acupuncturists, acupressurists and chiropractors who perform the Webster technique, reflexologists and others who can help with turning techniques.  Inquire about “tilting” techniques and other methods for helping the baby to turn.  Then, and only then, consider ECV (external cephalic version) if it is still necessary.  ECV should be a last resort.  It is not usually a procedure of choice for most women, but it is preferable to surrendering to a surgical birth.”

–  “There are several reasons why your due date is only an estimation.  To begin with, the selected date is usally calculated by recalling the date of the first day of your last menstrual period (which may not be accurate), counting back three months from that date and then adding seven days.  However, recent studies suggest that for first-time moms, fifteen days should be added, and ten days should be added for moms who have birthed previously.  There are several factors that can skew this estimate:  a) Actual calendar months differ in length; b) Menstrual cycles differ in the number of days between periods and in the duration of a period; c) The length of gestation can vary; d) Detection of a heartbeat or fetal movement may seem to support the timely development of the baby at a a given point, but is must be remembered that just as children differ in their development, so, too, do babies in utero.”

–  “If it is suggested that you be induced, you owe it to yourself and your baby to have a valid explanation of the reason.  You will want to ask about the risks of induction at the time it is recommended, as well as the benefits.  Ask to know what your rating is on the “Bishop’s Score,” which is used to determine the degree to which your body is ready for labor and the probably success of your being induced.  Inductions with low Bishop’s Scores could mean that the induction could be difficult, leading to lengthy, painful labor and an increased possibility of surgical birth.  A score of 8 or 9 would indicate that the induction probably would be successful, but it could also indicate that your baby’s birth is near.  An induction should be considered only if there is some true medical indication for it.”

–  “Some women find that with small doses of synthetic oxytocin, they are able to continue to call on their HypnoBirthing relaxation techniques; others tell us that they tried, but eventually, Pitocin won out.  They had to request an epidural.  This is one of the best reasons for not agreeing to it in the first place unless there is a true medical indication to consider.  And, again, we turn to the argument for hiring the right caregiver.  When the family and caregiver are working together, this discussion will be moot.  You will trust that such recommendations will be given only in the event of a change in the course of your pregnancy or labor that genuinely needs to be remedied by medical assistance.”

–  There is a nice, two-page chapter that has several suggested affirmations that should be listened to or read daily.

–  “HypnoBirthing recognizes only two phases of labor:  the Thinning and Opening Phase, and then the actual Birthing Phase, where the baby descends as his mother assists with Birth Breathing.  HypnoBirthing babies are not “pushed” into the world.  They are birthed gently and naturally, the way all other animal mothers birth, with mom following the lead of her body.  Immediately following birth there is the very important phase of bonding, with mom, dad and baby participating.  Baby, in adjusting to his new art of breathing, recognizes the scent of his parents, and handling by others should be minimal, if at all.”

–  “The calm HypnoBirthing approach to birth inhibits secretion of catecholamines so it is likely that your digestive functioning will not be arrested.  You need energy and you need to snack, drink lots of fluids to avoid dehydration and keep your bladder empty.”

–  “Many doctors, nurses and midwives recommend that women in labor walk.  The belief is that when a woman is in an upright position, she is better able to utilize the effects of gravity to help the baby move down into the pelvis.  The pressure of the baby’s head against the cervix is believed to encourage dilation.  It is also thought that standing expands the pelvic outlet through which the baby’s head passes first.  In 1997, a study in Texas, conducted through the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, however, found that there were no significant differences between the length of labor of women who walked and those who remained sitting, relaxing or resting.”

–  “It is important for parents to meet all suggestions with curiosity.  In the absence of a true medical urgency, the family should pause and consider the effects upon the mother and the baby, as well as the overall impact of the birthing experience.  It is sometimes difficult for medical care providers, accustomed to directing and playing an active role in birthing, to adjust to waiting and “standing by” in the event that they are needed.  But if this is how you see your labor advancing, this is what you should insist on.”

–  “If the baby does need an assist to move to a more optimal position, the Rebozo technique can be nicely utilized while mom is in the Polar Bear position.  The technique, developed by midwife Guadalupe Trueba, is well known in Mexico and is fast making its way into birthing rooms in the United States.  It is simply done by placing a long scarf under the mother’s abdomen at the area of the pelvic region and lifting upward.  This maneuver lifts the baby out of the present position and provides him with an opportunity to, in effect, back up and return to the birth path in a more favorable position for easy birthing.”

–  “The baby is placed immediately on your bare chest or abdomen for bonding.  Remarkably, studies called Kangaroo Mother Care, out of Australia, have found that the mother’s body heat adjusts to the needs of her newborn.  The birthing companion places his hand on the baby’s back to offer the security of skin-to-skin bonding that is so important during these first few moments.  Handling by others should be minimal, if not absent entirely.  The baby needs to feel safe among the people whose scents and energies she is most familiar with.  There is no need to rush to “clean” the baby, nor to cut the cord.  It is more important for the newborn to experience skin contact with both of its parents, if possible.”

–  “It is during this time that a loving relationship is affirmed, and this wonderful happening should not be rushed.  Through your caresses, gaze and soft conversation, you validate your infant’s acceptance and approval.  The baby feels this love, and his feelings of security and self-worth are validated.”

–  “Putting your child to the breast immediately has physical, as well as psychological, benefits.  This contact and stimulation at the breast causes your uterus to begin to contract, helps to expel the placenta and appropriately closes blood vessels to avoid any possible excessive bleeding.  Savor this time of bonding for as long as you wish and don’t yield to the needs of hospital staff to carry out administrative details like weighing, measuring and cleaning.  This is your new baby for whom you have been waiting for months.  Take time to get acquainted.  These moments can never be recaptured.  It’s important for you, your baby and your family.”

–  “Dr. Lennart Righard’s Delivery Self-Attachment video, resulting from a study in Denmark published in 1990, shows the ability of newborns who were not medicated during labor to crawl to the mother’s breast, just as other mammals do, and suckle.  On the other hand, even with help, the babies whose mothers were medicated lacked the ability to crawl to the breast and were unable to suckle even with assistance.”

–  “Your entire focus should be on your baby’s adjustment to his new world, and not on hosting well-wishers.  How many people came with you on your honeymoon?  The privacy and the moments of exploring and getting acquainted are just as important now.  You all need calm and peace and bonding as much as you did before your baby’s arrival.  To begin with, minimize contact with the outside world.  Simplify your daily life to meet your basic needs.  Wear your pajamas all day and order in food.  This is not the time to have a constant stream of coworkers, friends and relatives drop in.  Guests, especially female, tend to want to hold new babies, but it needs to be remembered that babies are making a tremendous adjustment.  They need to get accustomed to the scent and the touch of their parents and to become acclimated to their new surroundings.”

–  “Allow friends and relatives to come over only if they are bringing you a meal, want to do laundry, go shopping for you or clean your house!  Having these needs met makes the next leg of your journey into parenthood enjoyable and rewarding, and helps to create a transition into your new roles as parents and your infant’s new role of going from pre-born to newborn.”

–  “Who is going to do all those daily chores to keep your house running smoothly?  Dad?  Grandma?  A doula?  Moms are busy enough learning to feed their infants and caring for themselves physically.  Setting up your support system ahead of time for at least two weeks after the baby is born is very important.  It can speed your return to feeling confident in yourself again and help avoid fatigue.”

–  “Below is a piece about that wonderful stage of growth and exploration when your child is discovering the world and its many wonders.  It may help you to remember that children act like children, and it is unrealistic to think or expect that they should act like adults.  They need care, guidance and love so that they can make this journey successfully.  They need to be guided and loved.

Please, Mom and Dad …

My hands are small.  I don’t mean to spill my milk.
My legs are short – please slow down so I can keep up.
Don’t slap my hands when I touch something bright and pretty.  I don’t understand.
Please look at me when I talk to you.  It lets me know you are really listening.
My feelings are tender – don’t nag me all day.  Let me make mistakes without feeling stupid.
Don’t expect the bed I make or the picture I draw to be perfect.  Just love me for trying.
Remember, I am a child, not a small adult.  Sometimes I don’t understand what you’re saying.
I love you so much.  Please love me just for being myself, not just for the things I can do.


–  “Adults who were breastfed have lower cholesterol and few occasions of heart disease.  Studies have also shown that women who breastfeed have lower rates of breast cancer and cervical cancer.  In addition to experiencing few common illnesses and diseases, breastfed children have higher IQ’s.”

–  “You may not have considered the financial value of this resource that your body makes at no cost to you.  If you were to bottle-feed formula to your infant for a year, it may cost between $1,200 to $2,700, whereas human milk obtained by a doctors’ prescription from a milk bank would cost about $36,000 for the same period!  No wonder mothers call breast milk “liquid gold.”  Your body provides your baby this perfect diet absolutely free.”

–  “Learning a new skill is easier when someone is helping you.  You didn’t learn to drive a car by yourself.  Remember to ask for help.  Watching other mothers breastfeed before your baby is born will help you learn faster, too.”

~ by cmb0414 on August 7, 2010.

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